There are about a dozen or more songs that talk about pre-nups. The one that comes to mind is KANYE WEST’s Gold digger, it has a line that says “we want pre nup”
Most women will disagree with a pre-nup. According to these women, if you need a pre-nup you believe that the marriage is not going to work.
A prenuptial agreement is between two people dealing with financial and other decisions in the unlikely event of a marriage ending.
All married couples have a “prenup” – it is known as “divorce law.” Some people may be unhappy with the way divorce law work, and would prefer to take control of their own possessions, rather than leave it in some one else’s hands. In these cases, it makes a lot of sense to get a customized pre-nup.
Post-nups agreements are similar to pre nups agreements, except that they are completed after a marriage
I think pre-nups are a necessity in marriages even more so in cases of arranged marriages.
For more information why arranged marriages should have pre-nups, check out my other blog http://www.arrangedorlove.blogspot.com/
Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Saturday, October 24, 2009
The Contract
My family back in India and America are constantly hinting that I should get married. During my last visit to India I was even introduced to prospective matches. I even had friends and family try to set me up on dates and offer to pay membership costs on dating sites. I can’t forget the occasional email of a gal who they think would be a good match. All of this to get me married.
One of my friends, whose family is constantly trying to talk him into marriage says “Marriage is or has become a legalized institution of prostitution.” He says this cause he believes marriage is no longer for better or worst. There is always some thing that is a motivating factor for the marriage. Be it stability, security or a big old diamond ring.
It seems like Love प्यार is no more the reason why people get married. Today it’s more a business venture or for the tax brakes and other reasons. Most arranged marriages in my opinion are business ventures. Celebrities claim to be married but do not sign on the dotted line because their lawyers are still working out the prenup agreement even after weeks of the so called ceremony. Some time celebrities get married for 48 hrs or less as a publicity stunt. People will disagree with me about marriage being a business venture , then why is the divorce rate so high? In a business you can walk out of a venture if you’re not happy with it and the same is happening with marriage. I thought marriage was for better or worst then why is there an option out?
A wise man once told me “marriage is a contract be ready to wheel and deal do not let one party call the shots. Go into it ready to negotiate. The other party in the marriage may claim to have the upper hand but in reality on one person can call all the shots. You are a signatory to the contract and you will have a say. A pretty face does nothing and all your past achievements should be left at the door. If She/ he may portray that they still has options but do you know if they do. They may claim they had options before they signed the contract in a heated argument with you. Don’t believe it my friend for if they did why would they waste their time trying you? If their option is now a way out then they aren’t for you”
What has marriage become, just another business transaction?
What has happened to the sanctity of marriages? is it a joke where one can just walk out of if you are tired of the other person?
Has the meaning of marriage been lost?
Do we need a piece of paper to tell us love प्यार is legitimate?
Why do men/women change their Faith to get married with some one who has another religious Faith. Is it because you are in love with that person. What happened to loving your Faith. Shouldn't your religious Faith come before marriages of convenience and stability?
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Our Life, Our Message
Dear Friends,
This past week we have had a lot of emails requesting who we were and why we write here. I, Neriz even had a long 45 mins conversation on a Thursday night with a friend who hoped our endeavor failed. In this post myself and Atma Nirvana will share our stories on why we write here. Sorry for the long post.
Neriz: I was born and raised in a Christian home in Mumbai India. I grew up in a wealthy family with a golden spoon in my mouth. Being the only grandchild and the only grand son I was spoilt. Just a month before I was born my grandfather passed away. The family’s employees in the family business thought I was a reincarnation of their old boss and treated him like a king. I gave my life to Christ during the Hindu-Muslim riots at the age of twelve, but fell away from Christ at the age of 17. I became a well-known and successful DJ in India and played professional soccer. The fame and fortune led me to live a loose, promiscuous lifestyle; I started drinking alcohol doing drugs. I spent several years living in the world and eventually became hopeless and being lost. I began taking pain pills to numb the pain in my life and my heart. I continued to increase the dosage and found himself addicted to pain medication. My parents were very concerned about well being because of all of the negative pressures placed on youth in India. In an attempt to protect me, my parents sent me to the United States at the age of 21. I decided to leave the world behind and rededicate my life to Christ at the age of 23.
The Lord called me to serve Him in 2003. When the Lord called him I said why me Lord, the Lord spoke to me through one of his favorite verses John 15:16. Since then I have sought the Lord's will for my life in all that I have done. I served as a Campus Minister for one of the University of Louisville programs reaching international students and worked with Bridges International, a Campus Crusade for Christ Organization. I also led a mission trip to India and served as a youth leader and was one of the founding members of Youth for Christ-Colaba Unit, Mumbai India. I currently work for a non profit in CA.
I openly sate that I sided with the Democratic Party Platform when I first came to the United States as a young man, but now support the Republican platform. The change came after I took a long hard look at the issues.
I am just a young man in the land of dreams. This is the only place where dreams become reality. “When I came to America I did not come to live the democratic parties dream or the republican parties dream but to live the American dream.” Although it may be hard for me to achieve my dream I am working towards it. I love this country and thank it for making me a better man. I ask you join me in standing for what you believe in. If you do agree with our blogs show us your support by commenting
AtmaNirvana: I was born to a single mom who left me in a government orphanage when I was two days old. Later I was adopted by an American family who had made India their home. My adopted parents were the best parents one could have and I consider myself to be lucky to have had them has parents. Although my parents were Hippies, they took good care of me and sent me to good schools and wanted the best for me, they had a very good heart. Tragedy stuck when I was seventeen years old, an Indian family took advantage of my parents kindness and duped them of all their life savings. My parents had nothing left and they committed suicide. I was traumatized by this incident and had to drop out of high school as I had to now fend for myself. I led a street life hustling for a daily bread. During this time I saw horrible things human beings did to each other. I first hand saw how Women and kids were sexually exploited. I wanted to get away from the street life and move to greener pastures.
Through my adopted parents I was considered an American Citizen and therefore my goal was to save enough money so I could move to America. When was eighteen I had enough money saved and I immigrated to America.
In 1999, I joined the Army has I felt I owed this service to my adopted country America. The Army provided me with a daily bread and money for college. In the Army I quickly made friends and most of my best buddies to this day are from the Army.
When serving in the Army I fell in love with the most beautiful woman (she wasn’t in the army) who was a Mormon. She never practiced her faith and revolted against her parents, she used to abuse drugs and alcohol, mesmerized by her beauty and love I also started abusing drugs and alcohol and I thought I was happy with her. Because of my alcohol abuse I was close to getting kicked out of the Army but one of my higher officers intervened and gave me a second chance. I was admitted into the alcohol rehab program rather than get kicked out of the Army.
Later, 9/11 occurred, I was sent to Iraq as a soldier. I was involved in several fire fights and saw one my close friend, they officer who intervened and helped me out during my alcohol abuse, die in an IED attack. During this time my girlfriend who was back in the US broke up with me; She didn’t want to be involved with anyone religious like myself. This was hardest time of my life, I felt very lonely. I always wondered why God was testing me with hardships. I wondered why God took my parents away from me, why did He take away the good officer and why did the most beautiful girl in the world break up with me. Why God why I asked? I had totally lost faith in God and gave up on him.
One day when we were on a mission to provide security in the City of Kirkuk in Iraq (The birth place of Abraham) the strangest thing happened to me. I felt the presence of Jesus, I felt immense joy, I didn’t feel lonely anymore. He told me he was always with me. I felt the presence of the Jesus in what was considered a holy land, this was the happiest day of my life. Ever since I have never turned back on life. When I returned back to the states I went to school got my Bachelors degree.
As God acts in mysterious way, I accidentally met Neriz on a bus ride to work. We shared our stories about Jesus and I loved what Neriz was doing for the kids back in India. I decided to help him with Blog. I feel Jesus has bigger plans for me. I personally don’t believe in Politics, I feel Jesus Christ love us all, both Democrats and Republicans. His Love is immense and unconditional. My adopted parents were liberals and Democrats, the officer who helped me was a Republican, Jesus Christ sent them at the right time to help me out without consideration to their political affiliations. Therefore my goal is to reach out to the unreached and spread the word of Jesus. Please share the message of our blog to your friends and family.
This past week we have had a lot of emails requesting who we were and why we write here. I, Neriz even had a long 45 mins conversation on a Thursday night with a friend who hoped our endeavor failed. In this post myself and Atma Nirvana will share our stories on why we write here. Sorry for the long post.
Neriz: I was born and raised in a Christian home in Mumbai India. I grew up in a wealthy family with a golden spoon in my mouth. Being the only grandchild and the only grand son I was spoilt. Just a month before I was born my grandfather passed away. The family’s employees in the family business thought I was a reincarnation of their old boss and treated him like a king. I gave my life to Christ during the Hindu-Muslim riots at the age of twelve, but fell away from Christ at the age of 17. I became a well-known and successful DJ in India and played professional soccer. The fame and fortune led me to live a loose, promiscuous lifestyle; I started drinking alcohol doing drugs. I spent several years living in the world and eventually became hopeless and being lost. I began taking pain pills to numb the pain in my life and my heart. I continued to increase the dosage and found himself addicted to pain medication. My parents were very concerned about well being because of all of the negative pressures placed on youth in India. In an attempt to protect me, my parents sent me to the United States at the age of 21. I decided to leave the world behind and rededicate my life to Christ at the age of 23.
The Lord called me to serve Him in 2003. When the Lord called him I said why me Lord, the Lord spoke to me through one of his favorite verses John 15:16. Since then I have sought the Lord's will for my life in all that I have done. I served as a Campus Minister for one of the University of Louisville programs reaching international students and worked with Bridges International, a Campus Crusade for Christ Organization. I also led a mission trip to India and served as a youth leader and was one of the founding members of Youth for Christ-Colaba Unit, Mumbai India. I currently work for a non profit in CA.
I openly sate that I sided with the Democratic Party Platform when I first came to the United States as a young man, but now support the Republican platform. The change came after I took a long hard look at the issues.
I am just a young man in the land of dreams. This is the only place where dreams become reality. “When I came to America I did not come to live the democratic parties dream or the republican parties dream but to live the American dream.” Although it may be hard for me to achieve my dream I am working towards it. I love this country and thank it for making me a better man. I ask you join me in standing for what you believe in. If you do agree with our blogs show us your support by commenting
AtmaNirvana: I was born to a single mom who left me in a government orphanage when I was two days old. Later I was adopted by an American family who had made India their home. My adopted parents were the best parents one could have and I consider myself to be lucky to have had them has parents. Although my parents were Hippies, they took good care of me and sent me to good schools and wanted the best for me, they had a very good heart. Tragedy stuck when I was seventeen years old, an Indian family took advantage of my parents kindness and duped them of all their life savings. My parents had nothing left and they committed suicide. I was traumatized by this incident and had to drop out of high school as I had to now fend for myself. I led a street life hustling for a daily bread. During this time I saw horrible things human beings did to each other. I first hand saw how Women and kids were sexually exploited. I wanted to get away from the street life and move to greener pastures.
Through my adopted parents I was considered an American Citizen and therefore my goal was to save enough money so I could move to America. When was eighteen I had enough money saved and I immigrated to America.
In 1999, I joined the Army has I felt I owed this service to my adopted country America. The Army provided me with a daily bread and money for college. In the Army I quickly made friends and most of my best buddies to this day are from the Army.
When serving in the Army I fell in love with the most beautiful woman (she wasn’t in the army) who was a Mormon. She never practiced her faith and revolted against her parents, she used to abuse drugs and alcohol, mesmerized by her beauty and love I also started abusing drugs and alcohol and I thought I was happy with her. Because of my alcohol abuse I was close to getting kicked out of the Army but one of my higher officers intervened and gave me a second chance. I was admitted into the alcohol rehab program rather than get kicked out of the Army.
Later, 9/11 occurred, I was sent to Iraq as a soldier. I was involved in several fire fights and saw one my close friend, they officer who intervened and helped me out during my alcohol abuse, die in an IED attack. During this time my girlfriend who was back in the US broke up with me; She didn’t want to be involved with anyone religious like myself. This was hardest time of my life, I felt very lonely. I always wondered why God was testing me with hardships. I wondered why God took my parents away from me, why did He take away the good officer and why did the most beautiful girl in the world break up with me. Why God why I asked? I had totally lost faith in God and gave up on him.
One day when we were on a mission to provide security in the City of Kirkuk in Iraq (The birth place of Abraham) the strangest thing happened to me. I felt the presence of Jesus, I felt immense joy, I didn’t feel lonely anymore. He told me he was always with me. I felt the presence of the Jesus in what was considered a holy land, this was the happiest day of my life. Ever since I have never turned back on life. When I returned back to the states I went to school got my Bachelors degree.
As God acts in mysterious way, I accidentally met Neriz on a bus ride to work. We shared our stories about Jesus and I loved what Neriz was doing for the kids back in India. I decided to help him with Blog. I feel Jesus has bigger plans for me. I personally don’t believe in Politics, I feel Jesus Christ love us all, both Democrats and Republicans. His Love is immense and unconditional. My adopted parents were liberals and Democrats, the officer who helped me was a Republican, Jesus Christ sent them at the right time to help me out without consideration to their political affiliations. Therefore my goal is to reach out to the unreached and spread the word of Jesus. Please share the message of our blog to your friends and family.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Peace and Salvation in this economy
This week Atma Nirvana and I met for breakfast to discuss some of life’s complex questions. We spoke about Peace and Salvation. As we spoke about Peace in the journey of Life we came up with what we this is a way to attain peace. We believe that to attain peace one has to eliminate the want to attain more than what we require. We also need to remove jealousy from our life. We went a step further to connect peace with salvation ( मोक्ष ).
I have written a Poem that I would like to share with you all about life in these though times. I personally know about my salvation and open to share it in person or upon request.
MS Hollywood
Millions like me
Come to thee
With dreams and not reality
Only to broken
For thee is a harsh mistress
Please be kind to me
Don’t break me
But mold me
Away from this reality
That leads to the recession
O the good old recession
That’s causing us to lead
In a vast depression
Where do I attain peace?
Is there salvation for me?
We first cut our memberships
To the places of luxury
Gyms and parlors
Close thy doors to us
For do we eat
Or do I look good starving
Do we keep our roof?
Or look at the stars
As we cry our self to sleep
We weep on our foolish past
Now we blame it on the recession
O the good old recession
That’s causing us to lead
In a vast depression
Where do I attain peace?
Is there salvation for me?
You took our dreams
Then our vanity
What next for thee
For the assurance of health
The insurance rises.
For they are a cruel system
That increases their rate
Based on just a date
They don’t care for our health
All they do is raise their wealth
Even in the recession
O the good old recession
That’s causing us to lead
In a vast depression
Where do I attain peace?
Is there salvation for me?
P.S. Please share with us how you think one attains salvation.
P.S. Please share with us how you think one attains salvation.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Idle
These poems are personal and describe my state of mind of being unemployed. This poem will be part of the collection called “Ballads of an unemployed Engineer”. Enjoy
I lay here alone desperate for work
Trying to find solace in my mailbox
As bills and junk letters fill my cage
sadness creeps into my fragile heart
All I seek is bread and a woman's warmth
Why deny me I ask God?
It’s the economy stupid whispers the silent God
fill out more applications and watch the mailbox
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
"The Pursuit of vanity robs you of your sanity and a vain man is like a insane man".... I came up with it
I would say I am an above average young man. Just trying to make it. Being single and being human I am attracted to the opposite sex. When I look at a girl there may be a physical attraction or not, that dose not qualify me to date them nor dose it disqualify them. I would like to rather get to know the girl on the inside. Physical beauty is only skin deep. Is it that hard to believe that nice guys do exists. Is it outrageous for me to make a comment, that your body is not the only thing that I am interested in?
Being a former Dj I have dated a lot of very beautiful gals. But I have fallen in love only once with a gal who did not even come close to being in the same league physicaly . She was two leagues above them when I looked at her from the inside. She was not with me cause I took her to the hottest club in town. She was with me cause she loved me. She made me a better person. I may be in love now but wouldn’t know cause the girl who and I care about and myself has not discussed it.
Ladies if I can look past the physical appearance and want to get to know you the real you. Why cant women look past my flaws. Why can’t you look at me for me and not disqualify me for not working out and having a six pac any more. May be I am just meeting the wrong women. Would you rather have a guy who I used to be? A dj and guy who played organized sports with a cigarette in one hand a glass in the other and woman around my neck. Or would you rather have a guy who has been there done that and has change.
Ladies please comment and give me your opinions on
Is life all bout vanity?
Do women like bad boys more than a good guy?
Should I just be a jerk again to be in love again?
Being a former Dj I have dated a lot of very beautiful gals. But I have fallen in love only once with a gal who did not even come close to being in the same league physicaly . She was two leagues above them when I looked at her from the inside. She was not with me cause I took her to the hottest club in town. She was with me cause she loved me. She made me a better person. I may be in love now but wouldn’t know cause the girl who and I care about and myself has not discussed it.
Ladies if I can look past the physical appearance and want to get to know you the real you. Why cant women look past my flaws. Why can’t you look at me for me and not disqualify me for not working out and having a six pac any more. May be I am just meeting the wrong women. Would you rather have a guy who I used to be? A dj and guy who played organized sports with a cigarette in one hand a glass in the other and woman around my neck. Or would you rather have a guy who has been there done that and has change.
Ladies please comment and give me your opinions on
Is life all bout vanity?
Do women like bad boys more than a good guy?
Should I just be a jerk again to be in love again?
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